Cat communication is incredibly complex and interesting, and may not be the straightforward to understand. If you're a feline parent, you've probably noticed that your cat isn't the easiest furbaby to understand, especially when compared to dogs. If your cat has tried to communicate with you and you're left scratching your head don't worry, we've got some tips to hep you learn how to speak a little cat.
There's a ton of questions that come up when living with a cat. Why do cats meow? What’s with all that licking? And why on earth won’t they stop scratching the sofa? Cats are mysterious creatures, but they do have patterns and habits, and there are ways to figure these felines out. We give you the rundown on cat communication so you can learn what it is your kitty is trying to tell you.
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Explaining cat communication
1. I’m not always happy when I purr
You've definitely smiled your way through an uncomfortable social situation, right? Chances are you were more anxious than happy in that moment. It turns out, our little feline friends adopt the same approach - they use purring to help comfort themselves.
While cats often purr when they’re feeling relaxed and content, occasionally a cat may also purr when they’re feeling nervous or agitated. Just like a child can use thumb sucking as a way to soothe themselves, your cat may use their purr as a comfort mechanism.
So how do you know if your cat is purring because they’re happy or stressed? The key lies in the body language. The hallmark sign of a worry-purr is a tense body with the ears back. And purring can also increase with illness, so keep an eye out for any unusual behavior, such as mobility issues and changes in food intake and energy levels. Schedule a visit with your vet if you're concerned.
2. I lick you because I love you
Your cat doesn’t see you as a human - in fact, your furbaby just thinks you're a large, hairless version of themselves, so they'll treat you the same as they would treat any other cat. Welcome to the feline family.
According to anthrozoologist Dr. John Bradshaw, author of the book 'Cat Sense', unlike dogs, who know humans are different and adapt their social behavior to match, cats show no such differentiation.
“Cats behave towards us in a way that’s indistinguishable from how they would act towards other cats,” says Bradshaw, “Putting their tails up in the air, rubbing around our legs, and sitting beside us and grooming us are exactly what cats do to each other.”
Next time your kitty drops a dead mouse at your feet or wants to lick you all over, take it as a compliment. While they may not be as expressive as dogs, Bradshaw’s research has shown that cats love their owners just as much.
3. If I meow, I want your attention
If a cat is meowing, it's almost exclusively to get the attention of humans. Believe it or not, while kittens meow to communicate with their mothers, adult cats rarely meow at other cats. That means when your cat meows, it wants to communicate specifically with you. These are some of the more common reasons why:
- To greet you: Cats love to say hello and to respond when you speak to them.
- As a way of getting attention: When they want to play or be stroked, a cat will meow to get noticed.
- To ask for food: Cats are masters at using the meow to get you to feed them their favorite wet or dry cat food, even when they’re not hungry.
- Because they want to be let in or out.
- If they have a cognitive impairment: Elderly cats are prone to meowing a lot if they’re suffering from the feline version of Alzheimer’s Disease, which causes mental confusion.
Whatever the reason, while meowing can sometimes be irritating, don’t ignore it unless you know for sure that your cat is being a diva and trying to get you to do something they want. In most cases, excessive meowing is your cat's way of trying to alert you to the fact they need the toilet, have an empty water or food bowl, or have been accidentally locked in a closet.
4. My tail will tell you a lot
Your cat's tail is a great indicator of what kind of mood they’re in, so observing their tail talk can help you to understand them better.
According to Bradshaw, “An upright tail is a greeting sign between cats and is probably the clearest way cats show their affection for us”. If your cat's tail is high in the air, that’s a good sign they’re feeling confident and content, while a tail curved like a question mark is an indicator your cat is in a playful mood and ready to have some fun. A swishing tail is a common sight when they’re playing with cat toys and shows intense concentration.
And what if your cat’s tail is hanging low? That’s usually a sign of aggression, and you’ll often see this when your cat encounters another cat in its territory. If they puff up their tail, that’s an attempt to make themselves look bigger to ward off danger.
While the tales your cat's tail tells are generally similar for most cats, it’s worth noting that some breeds, like Persians and Scottish Folds, naturally carry their tails low regardless of what mood they’re in.
5. I’m not trying to ruin your stuff, I just need to scratch
Your cat doesn't want to destroy your furniture, we promise. Cats have a primal, instinctual urge to scratch, and while you can train them to scratch in a certain spot, you can’t train them to stop scratching.
“Cats scratch for a variety of reasons,” says Dr. Jennifer Conrad founder and director of the Paw Project. “It relieves anxiety; it’s a form of exercise; it hones their nails; it strengthens and stretches their muscles, and it marks territory.” As for why they go for your sofa, Conrad believes cats like to scratch the places where their pet parent sits to let other cats know this territory is theirs.
The best way to get your cat to stop scratching your furniture is to invest in one of the best cat scratching posts. Choose a scratcher made of a similar material to what your kitty likes to scratch and sprinkle it with catnip to lure them in.
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